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1. 1 On December 22nd, 2012, Julie♥ said:

   It’s very hard. I’m not a teen parent. Here’s what you have to do through:
   -The fact that you can’t do what you’d usually do. For example, you can’t hang out with friends on the weekend without worrying about finding someone to watch your child.
   -Supporting a child. You have to balance parenthood, school, and working.
   -The constant rumors and people looking at you weirdly
   -Money is tight and goes towards the baby and less on you
   -Caring for the baby at 2 am when you have to be up for school at 6 am
   -Missing school to have your baby
   -Arguments with family and boyfriend

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 1:49 am

2. 2 On December 22nd, 2012, Avery Grace said:

   As a teen mother myself I can honestly say it’s very difficult. I’m 17 and have a gorgeous daughter now a month old, Solara-Avery pronounced Sa-lar-ra, was admittedly a mistake but a mistake I now cherish. I’ve just left school this past year and have joined college doing A Level English part-time. The struggles are varied, Solara is a handful but I wouldn’t change her. Every Monday, Wednesday and Thursday from 10-2 I’m at college. As soon as I get home, she’s mine for the rest of the day. Scott, her dad and my fiancee, works every Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Saturday on shift work for his uncle’s building firm but he’s currently on paternity leave & I’m dreading for when he goes back to work. My mum watches Solara on the day’s I’m at college 10-3 but that’s it – I’m her care provider and I’m with her at every chance I can get. When she’s 3 months, she’ll be joining nursery therefore alleviating the weight of looking after her off my mum’s shoulders. I appreciate everything my mum does for us and I couldn’t have done it without her. Money is tight but we make it work, with Scott’s income with manage and Solara has everything she needs. All her daily essentials are paid for with my money – as it should be. She’s my daughter, not my mums and it’s my duty to care for her. I left school with relatively good grades achieving B’s & C’s and an A* in English – of which I’m extremely proud. Scott, has been amazing and has been there every step of the way, typically couples relationships break down under the obvious strain caused from a pregnancy but if anything me and Scott are closer than ever and he’s the best dad he can be for our little girl. As for partying this is a scarce occurrence & was even before I got pregnant. I never tended to go out and party – I was always inside concentrating on my sport. Typical normal teen girl stuff can still be done, my friends from college come around and we have a chinese, relax and chat – so Solara is no hindrance to that. Life is difficult with Solara, but I make it work. I’m at college trying to achieve my A Levels – to make Solara proud and do right by my little girl. Each day is a challenge, but I take them as they come and that is all I can do.

   -Avery-Grace<3

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 2:48 am

3. 3 On December 22nd, 2012, Tara said:

   EASY question!

   The hardest thing about being a teen mother is being judged by others BECAUSE your a teen mother!

   Pregnancy is never a mistake – It’s a consequence. A teen that takes on the enormous responsibility of managing her own life AND the life of her child should be applauded – not ridiculed!

   Avery – Your AWESOME!

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 2:56 am

4. 4 On December 22nd, 2012, MamaP said:

   at my school noone said anything. it was hard to keep up in school with having a little baby around. money its hard you pretty much just buy diapers and baby supplies nothing for yourself anymore. i aam single and havent seen my babys dad since i was 3 months pregnant, so its hard doing it all alone. i get lonley because myh child is my life i dont party or do sleep overs or anything anymore because of it. it is a very difficult thing but in the end you know its for a beautiful baby and my heart is with mine

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 3:03 am

5. 5 On December 22nd, 2012, Charlotte said:

   Anyones boyfriend might leave them teen or not
   I have teen mum friends
   One was meant to go to Uni last year,then she found out she was pregnant,I guess that was her biggest struggle
   Another one struggles with her boyfriend he is a d*ck they live together but he doesn’t pay attention or help with the baby , and he has only just bothered to get a job despite the fact the baby is a year old and he spends most of his money on weed I wish she would leave him
   None of my friends were big partiers so that hasn’t affected them
   I am not pregnant and have a very loving long term boyfriend but I imagine if I was to fall pregnant our biggest struggle would be the rush to move out we are this year anyway but we would have to really hurry it,and the fact that we really enjoy time just together and don’t want that to stop not for a couple of years anyway so it would be difficult to give up our movie nights lol

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 3:25 am

6. 6 On December 22nd, 2012, Solara - Avery said:

   Im 16 with a 4 week old daughter Savannah Mae. <3 Its very hard, however imensly rewarding. Everyday struggles varys from person to person, my everyday struggles are getting Savannah into a routine and putting her down for the night thats some work ;D. I love my baby girl. I dont get why people say you have no spare time, you have plenty when they are sleeping to shower, do your make -up and hair etc, just because you have had a baby doesnt mean you cant have personal hygiene. Me and my boyfriend are still together so Savannah always has another parent to dote on her however and its a relief to hand her to him every night he gets in from work. I admit being a mummy whatever age is hard however like i said its the most rewarding job in the world. It’s my last year at school and im trying super hard to make my grades and look after Savannah, she deserves a good future and only I can provide that for her. I dont really see why people say you if your young your a bad mummy.

   Solara – Avery <3

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 4:13 am

7. 7 On December 22nd, 2012, Go away. said:

   Well if your family isn’t supporting you then you probably wouldn’t be making enough to properly support a child. If you’re in school you can’t work during those hours, and you still have to pay for childcare. You can do your schooling through homeschooling/online classes, or attend a high school for pregnant teenagers/teenage mothers, where you can bring your child to school.

   If you’re not with your boyfriend anymore clearly it’s more difficult. It’s hard with two people, when you’re a single parent it’s nearly impossible without help.

   Obviously not being able to go out as much, party etc. is something to get used to, but it’s not the most difficult aspect. I’d probably say just having to mature and put your own needs aside is the most difficult.
   Being a parent at any age is hard, it’s merely exaggerated when it happens too early.

   posted on December 22nd, 2012 at 4:38 am

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