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1. 1 On October 16th, 2012, SimplyLovely said:

   Relax and be yourself. That is the person that asked her out so don’t try to be soemthing you are not. As for where to go or what to do, a nice lunch somewhere, a stroll in a park. She won’t expect much, your only 15.

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 7:31 am

2. 2 On October 16th, 2012, Brianna g said:

   be your self

   have fun

   and im 15 too

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 8:26 am

3. 3 On October 16th, 2012, indulgentreader said:

   Take her out to dinner, then a walk around a park or something. Discuss anything in life: family, school, hobbies, etc. Make sure you’re not babbling on and on, leaving her to just wonder how long the date is going to last. Include her, and make sure to ask lot and lots of questions. I wouldn’t recommend a movie since you really aren’t able to get to know each other much over it. Good luck!

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 8:31 am

4. 4 On October 16th, 2012, crazylove said:

   go do something that your county is well known for, and hold her hand

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 8:40 am

5. 5 On October 16th, 2012, twinturbo1994 said:

   Just try to break the ice by finding a common interest. Once you find out what you both like talking about it should come natural. I would hold off on “the moves” for now, Play hard to get. Most women love that.

   Ideas of where to take her…

   mini golf
   bowling
   go carts
   dinner

   I would stay away from a movie since you really wouldnt be talking and getting to know her at all.

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 8:42 am

6. 6 On October 16th, 2012, matty said:

   I think a nice long walk around town, window shopping and coversation is your best bet. Stay in public and keep the conversation light. If she is going to like you, it will be because of your looks and personality. After the first date, give a small peck on the cheek and a hug…nothing too overwhelming. The main idea is to keep the girl’s defenses down and don’t scare her away. If she likes you, you will be able to tell – ask her for a second date when you say goodnight. If she says yes, then the 2nd date should be something a little more one on one…like dinner or a movie. Good luck!

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 8:56 am

7. 7 On October 16th, 2012, Mrs. Depp said:

   ummm take her for a walk, or somethin fun like go-carts, do nor talk about ur ex if u have one, one of my ex’s kept doing that eveytime i talked to him he was always talking about how he missed his old gf, and stuff like that, i ended up breaking up with him telling him that is he missed her so much that he could got get her not, so do not do that………. and plz do not do the yawn and stretch thing it is sooo corny

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 8:58 am

8. 8 On October 16th, 2012, james l said:

   Top 10 Dating Tips

   Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won’t work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don’t take dating too seriously either.

   Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.

   Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don’t go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.

   Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don’t take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

   Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.

   Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don’t aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.

   Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.

   Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.

   Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.

   Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 9:37 am

9. 9 On October 16th, 2012, Diane A said:

   Best bet – “do something” bowling, watch a game, movies, pool. Don’t do the dinner thing because the silence will be deafening. Wait for the dinner for the third date when you get to know her better.

   posted on October 16th, 2012 at 9:41 am

10. 10 On October 16th, 2012, angela g said:

    go out to dinner and be yourself – do not try to act cool
    moves? its only the 1st date i wouldnt worry about “moves” right now
    have fun!

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 10:33 am

11. 11 On October 16th, 2012, wkdpixy said:

    Well no matter where you take or meet your date as long as you are a gentleman and act accordingly your date will be pleased. Take her someplace where you can laugh and cut up or be creative. maybe a carnival or amusement park or Zoo. Open doors for her and let her pass through first. Don’t interrupt when she is speaking and answer her when you are asked a question. Look her in the eyes when she speaks and when you are talking to her. Don’t tell rude jokes or be inconsiderate of her feelings. Don’t curse and by all means don’t have or show a negative biased attitude about anyone or anything. Be open minded and patient and be yourself. She’s most likely just as nervous as you are.

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 10:56 am

12. 12 On October 16th, 2012, Sammy S said:

    Calm down, it’s going to be okay. Ask her where she want to go. If she says you choose, then think of a place that is fun and that you enjoy. You obviously have something in common because she agreed to go on a date with you. Remember that she is probably just as nervous. Be cool, let things flow. Don’t be so concerned about what to say to the point where you don’t enjoy the date. Enjoy it. Think about her, but also about yourself. Be yourself. If things are meant to be they will. Don’t try to force anything.

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 11:07 am

13. 13 On October 16th, 2012, stormfury said:

    Ok, what you do is you go to a dinner or a cafe. Sit parallel to her and get something to drink talk for a while about what ever SHE likes. then invite her to your house. if you have no parrents home watch some tv. Kiss her or do whatever you want to do. then simpaly go sit outside and talk to her your yound so dont go and have sex go slow.

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 11:46 am

14. 14 On October 16th, 2012, lina j said:

    hey…be yourself act as you are wirh your friends…im 15 too so girls like the guy to be himself …and about your questions what u r going to say…just talk normal and tell some good jokes..i wish u luck…

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 12:42 pm

15. 15 On October 16th, 2012, chelsea_lulu21 said:

    You should probably take her out to dinner. Nothing too fancy, you’re only fifteen and I’m sure she doesn’t expect anything too extravagant. Don’t worry about not being able to do a movie, they can be fun but not really good for a first date because there’s not much opportunity for conversation. If you don’t know what to talk about try asking her questions about herself. Most people like to talk about themselves. Your goal for the first date is really just to get to know the girl. You can also ask her about what she wants to do with her life in the future. Before the date try to come up with some questions you know you want to ask. Also, don’t forget to think about how you would answer the same question because chances are, after she answers something, she’s going to want to know similar things about you. Just try to stay relaxed and don’t forget to tell her how pretty she looks and then compliment her on something, like her earings or something. She’s probably nervous too and she probably will have spent a lot of time deciding what to wear so if you compliment her it will make her happy and she’ll know that you are really paying attention to her. Good luck!

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 1:25 pm

16. 16 On October 16th, 2012, baymast13 said:

    Well, do you know any of the things she likes to do? You could always lob the ball back in her court, and ask her what she would like to do.
    I don’t know what to recommend doing in the country you are in. What’s available? In the US, I would suggest horseback riding (most girls love horses). If she doesn’t know how to ride, you could treat her to a lesson. If you can afford it, you could take her to an amusement park (if you live near one), bowling, tennis, pretty much any activity suitable for two. Skating is another good option, roller or ice. If she’s hungry, offer to feed her (pizza or burgers is good for a first date), but don’t try to plan an entire date around dinner, at least not until you have more experience. If you run out of things to say, ask her questions about herself, but be casual. She won’t want to feel as if she’s being interogated, lol.
    If she asks you questions about yourself, feel free to reply. Just don’t babble on and on because you’re nervous. Don’t make her drag information out of you, either. It’s fine to tell her if you’ve been playing soccer since you were 6, what position you play, and what you like best and least about it, but you don’t need to tell her the names of every coach and team-mate you’ve ever had!
    When you ask her questions, pay attention! Lean just slightly toward her, and make eye contact. That’s tricky, you don’t want to get into a staring match, but look her in the eyes occasionally. That conveys that you care about what she’s saying, and don’t want to miss a word. If you think you’re overdoing it, just tell her you can’t help it, she has really pretty eyes. Not a girl alive that wouldn’t like to hear that!
    This is why a first date should revolve around some activity. You have something to focus on if conversation lags. First dates are nerve-wracking no matter how old (or young) you are.
    Forget about “moves.” Try anything on a first date, and you can guarantee you won’t get a second one! You should be dating exclusively for months before you ever try getting too physical.
    At the end of the night, it’s usually awkward to know what to do. If she leans in for a hug or kiss, fine. Just keep it quick and brief. Absolutely no tongue, unless she initiates it! If she leaves it up to you, a peck on the cheek when you leave is usually appropriate. If she sticks out her hand, go ahead and shake it. Or, if you really want to wow her, you can kiss her hand, like the French do. A guy did that to me when I stuck out my hand to shake, and I was with him for 13 years! He was a loser, but I never forgot how I felt when he did that.
    To avoid potential humiliation, instead of asking for a second date on the spot, ask if you can call her the next day. If she doesn’t want to go out with you again, it’ll be easier for you both over the phone. Ask for a second date when you call. Don’t drill her if she turns you down. Just tell her you enjoyed her company and to call if her plans change (she’ll probably say she’s busy, rather than that she doesn’t want to go out with you again). Then let it go. If you don’t want to go out with her again, don’t ask if you can call. Just thank her for a nice evening, shake her hand, and leave. She should get the message.
    No matter what you planning to do, dress nicely, make sure you are perfectly clean, and your breath is okay. Don’t have pastrimi or garlic for lunch the day of a date, it’ll stay with you.
    It’s perfectly normal to be terrified before your first date. It’s always worse for guys because you’re expected to call the shots. It’s okay to admit it’s your first date, and that you’re a little nervous. She’ll think you’re sweet. If you try to act suave and sophisticated when you aren’t, you might come off looking like a jerk! Be yourself, be honest, and try to relax and have fun. That’s what it’s all about! Good luck!

    posted on October 16th, 2012 at 2:22 pm

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