First of all, take out the word CONFRONT totally. If you are being confrontational, you have already lost your credibility. Replace it with the word, "talk" you want to talk to a fellow bretheren or sister about a sin they were caught in? So that they will repent? Ask yourself some questions.
1. is this word of mouth or did you see it for yourself? where you present at that time?
2. Do you know for a fact that the person has not repented already?
3. Has this person cited their guilt for anything? (remember, Satan sits up there accusing us all day and you do not need to be guilty of that.) 4. Would it better for you to pray for this person, then go to them and say, "I have heard it all, I just want you to know that this too shall pass, and I have prayed for you?"
You cannot make any one repent. You can ask them if they have gone to the mercy seat, and if not you can tell them, forgiveness is there. This persons trials, tribulations and errors are not about you. You show a loving and concerned spirit in wanting to help this person, but, why are you wanting to help them, is this pure from your heart which is clean of error? For all have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God.
Now, do not misunderstand what I am saying to you, what I am saying is that before you approach anyone, pray in the spirit to have humility and understanding, an open ear and a tongue with loving kindness, that is what wisdom teaches, and all wisdom comes from God.
You know, search yourself prior, your shortcomings and infirmities if there be none, then Go to your brother and correct him, tactfully, gently and in love. Let it be about your love for your brother and not being self righteous. Pray, God will give you what to say if it is for you to speak on anything about your brothers transgressions.
Paul told us how to get it done, and I would say, before you do, Go to 1 Corinthians 1:3-9. It tells us about how to handle disputes and disagreements in love and humility with our fellow members of the church.
Study this, and focus on what Paul is teaching, what it means and what he is really saying.
Corrections christian to christian is always done in love, tact and with a spirit of truth.
Consult 1 Corinthians 1:3-9
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